All About Love: New Visions (Bell Hooks Love Trilogy (Paperback))
|A Book That Will Be Helpful to All|
I got to know about Bell Hooks in classroom. One of our foreign professors was her classmate while they were in Ph.D program in UC San Diego. And she told us that Hooks was a fast writer as well as an excellent university professor. The way she is different from other feminist theorists and cultural critics is that she does not use any dense expression or jargon that would puzzle people to show her academic level. Instead she thinks that all people has their own understanding to the world and she just wants to share hers with all the people.
We could see this in her book All About Love: New Visions. She intends to address all the people who is interested in the theme of love. The words she uses are easy to understand, the way she develops her point is absolutly clear. She shares her personal experience and understanding of love and explores the possibility of healthy loving relationship.
She also criticises male writers 'Love fantasy'. Women are the largest group to buy self-help books, she says, but the books they could choose are all (or almost all) written by male writers, who could only guess women's feelings and emotion and give advice from male perspective shaped by gender. Therefore, women reading these books written by men (about love for example) would internalize the rules created according to male needs and the worst,do as told.
Hooks analyses parent-child relationship, and she points out that child abuse doesn't equal to just violence. In fact many families show little respect to children's rights. And such things would affect the kid's for life and prevent the kid's in building a healthy loving relation within either the parents' family or family of their own. After reading this part of the book, I felt as if I was being reborn again.
There are also many other constructive ideas and points in this book. I do think everyone would find it somewhat helpful. It is great to read the book because while reading you would probably have the great feeling that 'I am not that queer as I believed' or 'I am not the one to be blamed (at least not the only one)'.